When a wife ignores her husband completely, it is called DEFLECTION.
This requires a daily process to continue taking such decision in your heart. Every single day when you wake up, you have to give yourself a justification: “I do this because of XYZ, and he did this to me“. You have to blame your husband for your (bad) decision, otherwise you cannot continue doing it. Without this “XYZ” excuse you are unable to continue to sin (with someone else).
Unfortunately, that “XYZ” reason is a big lie (because you run away from the truth).
I know all of this because I was doing the same before…until God saved me.
I am lucky though: some wives flip the switch of deflection when they have kids, either running away with them or leaving them with the husband. [Thank you God!]