When you make one bad decision, the only way to fix it is to undo/cancel it. You cannot make a second bad decision to fix the first one, because: “two bad [decisions] doesn’t make one right [decision]”.
It took time for me to understand that my decisions were bad (but some people are faster/slower than others). Then, it took a lot of courage to undo/cancel my bad decision to live without my wife, with someone else, with other dreams, with another family. The core of the problem is spiritual: if you do not believe in God, and if you don’t understand that He created marriage, you just give Him the middle finger: “God, the spouse that YOU sent me is CRAP”. But God knows better: because He knows better the two persons that He joined (this is written in the Bible in Matthew 19:6 – Jésus/Yéshua is talking).
Or, if you don’t believe in God at all, you tell yourself: “I have married the wrong spouse, I made a mistake”. In that case what do you do? You divorce, to marry someone else. Then in this new marriage, at the first difficulty you execute the same software: “I have married the wrong spouse, I made a mistake”. Then you divorce again, to marry someone else again. This is why: people that do not believe in God divorce and re-marry times and times again.
I love my wife. And my love for her is eternal. It is a love from God. Nothing can break it (even you). This is because God joined me to/with you.
